Wednesday Wisdom | 190717

WW 190717

“You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.” Diana Vreeland or possibly not.

With Wednesday Wisdom I tend to give myself a theme. From there I look at lists and sites, looking to find a punchy, catchy one. I came across the full version (above) and decided to focus on the last line. It so eloquently summed up so much.

It’s interesting how the history of the quote; it went from being said by Diana Vreeland, to being written by her, then it was Fran Lebowitz, and finally people believe it was Erin McKean. for a more in depth telling of the story, have a click.

Why did I choose this one?

From men on the street telling you to smile, to women being made to cover up whilst they breast feed. So many everyday comments, all designed to have some kind of homogeneous pleasant place, so that no man would feel uncomfortable.

Why can’t you walk down the street in a bad mood? Life isn’t always happy. Why should breast feeding women have to cover up? It is literally the most natural thing in the world. Why should any woman have to go out their way to be pretty?

Women shouldn’t have to alter their mood, their appearance, their natural behaviour so as to be more palatable to men.

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2 thoughts on “Wednesday Wisdom | 190717

  1. I agree. Yet we have all been raised to make sure we look presentable or look our best when we leave the house or receive guests. I think there is such a thing as appropriate dress for different occasions. I think I understand what you’re getting at with this article. Women, more than men, have been bombarded by the media about the importance of body products and clothing to look, feel and smell sexy for men – and for people in general. This has caused untold psychological problems for young women trying to find their own way in the world. In a sense, this type of messaging (for profits, of course) is abusive. Whether male or female, not everyone is born with great physical beauty. Yet, we seem conditioned to search for that gorgeous person to be our partner – or even our friend. I think all of us need a serious attitude adjustment on this topic. Great post!

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