“You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.” Diana Vreeland or possibly not.
With Wednesday Wisdom I tend to give myself a theme. From there I look at lists and sites, looking to find a punchy, catchy one. I came across the full version (above) and decided to focus on the last line. It so eloquently summed up so much.
It’s interesting how the history of the quote; it went from being said by Diana Vreeland, to being written by her, then it was Fran Lebowitz, and finally people believe it was Erin McKean. for a more in depth telling of the story, have a click.
Why did I choose this one?
From men on the street telling you to smile, to women being made to cover up whilst they breast feed. So many everyday comments, all designed to have some kind of homogeneous pleasant place, so that no man would feel uncomfortable.
Why can’t you walk down the street in a bad mood? Life isn’t always happy. Why should breast feeding women have to cover up? It is literally the most natural thing in the world. Why should any woman have to go out their way to be pretty?
Women shouldn’t have to alter their mood, their appearance, their natural behaviour so as to be more palatable to men.